The Elderly Inconvenience

I opened up my computer yesterday and there was some comment on Facebook or somewhere from somebody who was bragging about how they were going to convert a room of their home into a nursing facility so they could care for some old person or the other and I had to laugh my ass off.

I happen to know the individual was kidding — bad joke, Mama!


It ain’t happening anymore!

There was a time in America when people could grow old and be sick and die in their own homes under the care of their children and relatives but that moral imperative has long since been consigned to the crap can of convenience and is no longer operative in The American Paradigm.

That is what the human dumps we all know as Hospices and Nursing Homes were invented for —- to unload the responsibilities of caring for the aging and failing parent or other relatives.

I have already complained of some ailment or the other to one of my own kids — a grown kid — a successful kid — a kid with a family of his own — who was quick to tell me that there is all kinds of palliative care available “Out There” somewhere if I should ever need it. (Translation: “When you become debilitated and unable to care for yourself, do not bring your problems to me!).

As I was growing into adulthood —– back in the good old days —– we didn’t treat our loved ones that way. But those days are so far back in history I doubt if anybody remembers them any more.

Today’s elderly parent or other “Loved One” (What the Hell does that even mean anyway … “Loved One?”). — Today’s elderly “Loved One” is somebody to be tolerated — someone to be acknowledged because it is not good for personal image for kids to refuse to acknowledge those aging inconveniences called “Parents.” —- Someone to be tucked neatly away and out of sight and out of mind if the tragedy of old age should make the person incapable of being what they once were.

Today’s elderly are simply annoyances to be patronized when other people are watching.

Not to despair, however — I believe the day will come when somebody will decide that euthanization is good for both the family unit and the nation as a whole and we will no longer be faced with such daunting responsibilities as caring for a loved one in their last days on earth.

3 thoughts on “The Elderly Inconvenience

  1. Both of my parents died at home and I live in the house and my daughter will care for me when all is needed…I have no doubt of that…I wish other seniors could say the same thing….chuq

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  2. I spent a few years looking after my Mum before she died. She refused to go into a care home offered by the local authority, and also declined to move in with us, or closer to us. So a few days a week, I would make the 90-minute each way journey across London to her place; get her shopping, cook her meals to be eaten later, and take and return her washing. Later on, I paid a lady to come in to do her housework, and to wash and dress her too.
    It was very tiring, and a lot of commitment. But she was my Mum, what else could I have done? I somehow doubt that Julie can expect the same from her four kids, in thirty years time.
    Best wishes, Pete.


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